As a working and multi-passionate mom, I often feel the struggle between taking care of my family and pursuing my own interests.
Recently, I created a stellar program that I was super excited about. It combined all the things I love, would make a huge difference in the lives of the students, and was everything I’ve been building towards… but then I stopped. Something felt off. Did I truly have the time to commit to a 6-month journey with these women?
The answer was an unsettling “No.”
→ But I’ve invested so much time.
→ I’ve already started marketing it.
→ What will people think if I stop?
Then I remembered…
What other people think of me is none of my business
- No one is thinking about you (because they are really thinking about themselves)
- It’s your life, so you get to choose
- When you aren’t fully committed, others can feel it
You have permission to change your mind
It’s hard to change course when you’ve invested so much time and energy into something. For me, maybe it’s easier to think of it not as a “Not yet” rather than a “No.”
I realized that I needed to set aside my ambitions to focus on my first commitment = my family. I had to invite stillness into my business to have the time and energy to give to my 4 children, because they still need a fully present and engaged mother.
This doesn’t mean letting go of all my goals and aspirations. Rather, it’s a re-shifting of priorities and a recognition of what I can handle at this moment in time.
It’s also an invitation to go within.
To feel into the decisions I make moving forward.
To act only when I can give it my full attention.
If I’ve learned anything, it’s this…
When I act in alignment with my own needs, and the needs of my family, I can never go wrong
Now that I’ve paused my long-term work commitments, I can jump whole-heartedly into the endeavors that fit with my lifestyle and feel like a full soul YES.
For me, this means:
- More personalized experiences
- Events that create community
- Soul nourishing workshops
- An infusion of new creative styles
The possibilities feel fresh and exciting… and I can’t wait to allow it to unfold.
Coming up first is the Fearless Spirit Women’s Retreat in May. My stomach is already doing summersaults with excitement. If it speaks to you, I’d love to see you there.