“Some of the most compassionate people are also the most boundaried… Boundaries are not fake walls, not separation, they’re not division. They are respect for what’s ok and what’s not ok for me.”
I love what Brene Brown has to say about boundaries. I’ve been receiving a crash course in setting boundaries, and I’ve learned some great lessons:
- Holding your boundaries and walking away is a demonstration of love and respect for yourself, not of unkindness to the other person.
- You can’t help other people unless they are willing to help themselves. It’s not your job, nor should it be
- You won’t always get along with everyone, and that’s ok. You need to take care of your own well-being first and foremost, and that includes choosing the people you’ll allow into your life.
- Kindness and compassion can be shown by assuming everyone is doing the best they can, but that doesn’t mean you need to allow their behaviors into your life.
It seems that we need to experience these types of relationships in order to learn.
Now I know where my boundaries are, I know the red flags, and I know that choosing myself is an act of self-love.
Choose yourself, my friend. This doesn’t mean you don’t care about the other person. It means that you care enough about yourself to not tolerate poor behavior.
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