Have you ever wondered about your life purpose?
Do you have moments where you know there must be more to life than the everyday routines that you find yourself stuck in?
The good news is that you are not alone.
The bad news is that you are lucky to have these worries.
Why are you lucky? Read on…
A friend and I were talking recently about the search for what to do next… about the search for purpose and living a life that helps humanity.
This is not a new conversation that we are all having, but do you realize how lucky you are to worry about such a thing as a “life purpose?”
Seriously, let’s shift our perspective here. We live in a time of modern conveniences and the most advanced health and wellness yet. We don’t have to worry about surviving the day. We don’t have to worry about war and violence outside our doors. We are truly, very fortunate, and it’s a privilege to think about a life purpose.
Worrying comes from thinking ahead. No one knows what the future holds, yet we worry about making it meaningful. In the meantime, we become complacent about today and don’t put in the effort to make a change.
This is the cycle that we get stuck in, and why so many of us need to turn to others for help. When left to our own devices, we squander away the minutes in worry and routine, yet get frustrated when we feel lost or without direction.
So how do we stop the cycle?
- Recognize you are in one. Bring awareness to the moment and how your own actions are creating the problem. You, too, are responsible for the way your life is going.
- Identify what is holding you there. Is it your mindset? Do you feel worthy of a different circumstance? Is it fear of change? Do you believe in yourself enough to figure out what to do next? Write it all down. All of it. Ask yourself the hard questions, and then question your own answers. (Are they true? Who says they are true?) Keep going and dig deeper. Allow the words to flow and don’t worry about punctuation, grammar, or cohesion.
- Take control of your own inner state of happiness. Think of now – this moment – and grab ahold of the thoughts, actions and activities that will raise your energy level and mood. Do you need to go for a walk? Meditate? Take a few deep, mindful breaths? List what you’re grateful for? Now… DO THEM to bring your own spirits higher. Only then can you approach your present situation with fresh eyes.
- Learn. What do you want to learn more about? Personal development is the best way to not only bring purpose into your life, but to also teach through example and change the world. When YOUbecome better, WE all benefit. See how that works? Here are some of my favorite books that have created huge shifts in my life:
- The Four Agreements: A Practical Guide to Personal Freedom (A Toltec Wisdom Book) by Don Miguel Ruiz
- A New Earth: Awakening To Your Life’s Purpose by Eckhart Tolle
- Change Your Thoughts – Change Your Life: Living the Wisdom of the Tao by Dr. Wayne Dyer
- The Motivation Manifesto by Brendon Burchard
- Daring Greatly: How the Courage to Be Vulnerable Transforms the Way We Live, Love, Parent, and Lead by Brene Brown
- Take care of yourself. Set aside time each week to do something just for yourself. You don’t need permission for self-care. Just as the grass needs cut and the car needs a tune-up, your own mind/body/soul needs nurturing and refreshment. One of my favorite ways to get back to myself is to ask for a staycation. I ask my husband to take the kids out of the house for an extended period of time so that I can be alone. During that time, I do what feels good for me. If that’s watching tv all day – perfect. No judgement! I DON’T clean, run errands, or do anything that feels like a “should.” Nope… I do what I want, when I want, and it feels so good. I invite you to ask for what you need, and then seize the opportunity when it is given.
- Ask for help. Reach out to others, whether it be a friend, a family member, or someone that inspires you. At a core level, we are all here to connect to one another. No one needs to travel their journey alone. You have nothing to prove to anyone, and working yourself to exhaustion serves no one. If you need a hug, ask for one. If you need some friendly conversation, ask a friend to meet you. If you don’t ask, the answer is always “no,” so you may as well try for the “yes.”
If nothing else, please remember this:
You are doing the best you can in each moment, and that is always good enough. You have already come so far in your life, and you have accomplished a great deal. This is all part of your beautiful story, and nothing is discounted or wasted. Cut yourself some slack and celebrate all the amazing things you’ve done and the amazing person you have become.
In love + gratitude,
P.S. If you are interested in connecting with, and potentially working with me, I’d love to speak with you. You can find more information here.